Why is it that we always allow our emotions to overtake us? By doing that we only do bad to ourselves.
Remember that no one can hurt your feelings without your cooperation and willingness
No one can cause you to have any kind of emotional reaction without your first giving them permission to do so. You alone are responsible for your feelings and emotions. When you know what you plan to do with your life, you will not allow annoying situations to deter you from your goals for long. If you set ambitious goals for yourself and work enthusiastically toward them, you will quickly realize that you don't have time to allow petty annoyances to upset you and keep you from your objectives.
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Friday, December 26, 2008
Thought of the Day
Even married people were once strangers. Therefore, without patience and the effort to understand one another, things are likely not to go well. We need patience in order to become happy.
There are many who dream about experiencing happiness without the patience. But that is a dream. And a dream is just that--a dream, a fairy tale. It is to wish for a childish, easy life. This illusion breaks up many marriages. The pursuit of such happiness can only make one miserable.
It is important to make the effort to calmly construct something together. From there, real love develops. Real marriage is when you have been married for twenty-five years and feel an even deeper love than you did when you first met. Love deepens. Love that does not is merely on the level of simple likes and dislikes
There are many who dream about experiencing happiness without the patience. But that is a dream. And a dream is just that--a dream, a fairy tale. It is to wish for a childish, easy life. This illusion breaks up many marriages. The pursuit of such happiness can only make one miserable.
It is important to make the effort to calmly construct something together. From there, real love develops. Real marriage is when you have been married for twenty-five years and feel an even deeper love than you did when you first met. Love deepens. Love that does not is merely on the level of simple likes and dislikes
Monday, December 22, 2008
Your Competition should be only one person - YOU
In most large organizations, the amount of time and energy that is squandered in interdepartmental rivalry is enormous. Managers who compete with others inside the company waste valuable resources that should be directed at fulfilling the company's mission to serve its customers better. Worse, a negative, internal focus can cause the company to miss opportunities, the full effect of which may not be realized for months or even years.
Whether you are the head of the department or the newest worker on the staff, you can help your company immeasurably by refusing to become embroiled in internal strife. Compete with yourself to do the best job you can do instead of competing with others.
Its a shame that a lot of us are more interested at what others are doing and how to bring them down instead on focusing on how to work on ourselves and move self and company forward.
I strongly feel that cooperation MUST start at the head of the department, if it is expected at the other end. The same stands true for efficiency as well.
Anyone who thinks otherwise?
Whether you are the head of the department or the newest worker on the staff, you can help your company immeasurably by refusing to become embroiled in internal strife. Compete with yourself to do the best job you can do instead of competing with others.
Its a shame that a lot of us are more interested at what others are doing and how to bring them down instead on focusing on how to work on ourselves and move self and company forward.
I strongly feel that cooperation MUST start at the head of the department, if it is expected at the other end. The same stands true for efficiency as well.
Anyone who thinks otherwise?
Thursday, December 18, 2008
Don't call yourself a LEADER, if don't know to follow direction yourselfDon't call yourself a LEADER, if don't know to follow direction yourself
Dear Friends,
I don't think that any one is capable of giving direction, unless he or she knows how to take direction and carry them. Today the key issue that we face in many organizations are, we seldom find leaders who follow directions that are laid down but expect people down the line to do so - WHY?
An essential quality of leadership is developing the ability to persuade others to align their goals with yours and those of the organization. Until you, yourself, are able to join forces with others in the pursuit of a common objective, you will never persuade them to join your cause.
Effective leaders recognize the value of working together, and they learn how to follow directions before being entrusted with the responsibility for the performance of others. Good leaders show by example how they expect others to behave. Even though the troops may be trained to follow orders unquestioningly, the officer always leads them into battle.
You cannot push others to follow your example; you must pull them along with you. When you show by your every word and deed that you are a person of character, one who works for the greater good of the entire organization, your people will follow.
We all need to REFLECT and assess the same.
Cheers,
I don't think that any one is capable of giving direction, unless he or she knows how to take direction and carry them. Today the key issue that we face in many organizations are, we seldom find leaders who follow directions that are laid down but expect people down the line to do so - WHY?
An essential quality of leadership is developing the ability to persuade others to align their goals with yours and those of the organization. Until you, yourself, are able to join forces with others in the pursuit of a common objective, you will never persuade them to join your cause.
Effective leaders recognize the value of working together, and they learn how to follow directions before being entrusted with the responsibility for the performance of others. Good leaders show by example how they expect others to behave. Even though the troops may be trained to follow orders unquestioningly, the officer always leads them into battle.
You cannot push others to follow your example; you must pull them along with you. When you show by your every word and deed that you are a person of character, one who works for the greater good of the entire organization, your people will follow.
We all need to REFLECT and assess the same.
Cheers,
Tuesday, December 16, 2008
Beating the slowdown blues
Ever thought about spending a penny to save a Rupee.
Sounds a great proposition, especially when recession is on upward swing & markets are hitting rock bottom. So as our oldies said, money saved is money earned holds particularly true in today’s scenario, when cost cutting is the new mantra.
So, to untangle one from the clutches of recession, a new service is launched, moneysaver, brainchild of 2 young entrepreneurs, Kunal Bahl & Rohit Bansal, who aspired to make every brand affordable for everyone by offering hundreds of discount coupons & buy one get one free coupons on branded apparels, fine dining, casual dining, movies, entertainment etc.
Moneysaver is a service that comes in handy to consumers as its affordable (Just Rs 100 monthly), accessible (Just a sms away), Available (More than 200 outlets where one can buy moneysaver recharge card.) & every month, subscribers are kept abreast with the latest offers through monthly catalogue.
The entire model is based on the simple fact that everyone loves to strike a deal, to make a bargain and avail a discount. The research which their focus group discussions revealed was that Indian customers are not price sensitive, they are value sensitive. The perceive value not on the basis of whether they are getting the product cheap but if they are getting it cheaper. Money Saver stretches the concept to make it a win-win for all by feeding on ’dependencies’. Aiming to reach a target group of 15 million potential booklet buyers comprising young professionals, college students and housewives they know that this is exactly the same group that the expanding pool of retailers is trying to reach across the country. There website called www.moneysaver.in is full of such great offers.
Not only Moneysaver, but other companies are also trying to utilize SMS, Bluetooth, mobile websites, to cost effectively reach customers. Bluetooth companies such as Telebrahma and CellMagix have been promoting offers and content to consumers inside malls, by sending information directly to Bluetooth activated phones.
Monday, December 15, 2008
Obstacles are stepping stone to success
Dear Friends,
Yesterday I was talking to one of my colleagues on why its important to look at all obstacles as challenges or stepping stones and then I hit upon this article.
Wally Amos, the man whom many consider to be the father of the gourmet cookie industry, has turned lemons into lemonade so often in his life, that in his official portrait he holds a pitcher in one hand and a glass of lemonade in the other.
A perennial optimist, Amos refuses to acknowledge that obstacles are anything other than stepping-stones to success. In a career that has spanned several decades, he has made it to the pinnacle of success several times, only to lose everything and be forced to start over. But he's never lost faith. "You have to have the trust and faith to let go and not agonize," he says.
So we know what to do now - If Life hands you a lemon, don't complain, but instead make lemonade to sell to those who are thirsty from complaining.
Let's not waste our time worrying. Worry is not preparation. Analyze the situation and focus on solutions. There is always an answer and its only there with us.
Yesterday I was talking to one of my colleagues on why its important to look at all obstacles as challenges or stepping stones and then I hit upon this article.
Wally Amos, the man whom many consider to be the father of the gourmet cookie industry, has turned lemons into lemonade so often in his life, that in his official portrait he holds a pitcher in one hand and a glass of lemonade in the other.
A perennial optimist, Amos refuses to acknowledge that obstacles are anything other than stepping-stones to success. In a career that has spanned several decades, he has made it to the pinnacle of success several times, only to lose everything and be forced to start over. But he's never lost faith. "You have to have the trust and faith to let go and not agonize," he says.
So we know what to do now - If Life hands you a lemon, don't complain, but instead make lemonade to sell to those who are thirsty from complaining.
Let's not waste our time worrying. Worry is not preparation. Analyze the situation and focus on solutions. There is always an answer and its only there with us.
Saturday, December 13, 2008
Drifting without aim will lead you nowhere
Dear friends,
Without a plan for your life, it is easier to follow the course of least resistance, to go with the flow, to drift with the current with no particular destination in mind. Having a definite plan for your life greatly simplifies the process of making hundreds of daily decisions that affect your ultimate success.
When you know where you want to go, you can quickly decide if your actions are moving you toward your goal or away from it. Without definite, precise goals and a plan for their achievement, each decision must be considered in a vacuum. Definiteness of purpose provides context and allows you to relate specific actions to your overall plan.
Cheers,
Without a plan for your life, it is easier to follow the course of least resistance, to go with the flow, to drift with the current with no particular destination in mind. Having a definite plan for your life greatly simplifies the process of making hundreds of daily decisions that affect your ultimate success.
When you know where you want to go, you can quickly decide if your actions are moving you toward your goal or away from it. Without definite, precise goals and a plan for their achievement, each decision must be considered in a vacuum. Definiteness of purpose provides context and allows you to relate specific actions to your overall plan.
Cheers,
Thursday, December 11, 2008
There's always a NEW beginning
Dear Friends,
THERE ALWAYS REMAINS AN OPPORTUNITY TO MAKE A NEW START.
Though it may not seem so when you first encounter a serious blow, you can never lose two of the most important assets you have. These are the power of your mind and your freedom to use it.
Once you have turned them to understanding what laid you low, you can begin forming new plans. You may not have the money you once had; you may lack the allies you had cultivated. But you still have the benefit of
a universe that eventually rewards honest effort, as well as gaining the experience of mistakes you will never make again.
Remember, no matter where you are now, whatever you can conceive and believe, you can achieve. Protect the most important thing you have - YOU
Cheers,
B
THERE ALWAYS REMAINS AN OPPORTUNITY TO MAKE A NEW START.
Though it may not seem so when you first encounter a serious blow, you can never lose two of the most important assets you have. These are the power of your mind and your freedom to use it.
Once you have turned them to understanding what laid you low, you can begin forming new plans. You may not have the money you once had; you may lack the allies you had cultivated. But you still have the benefit of
a universe that eventually rewards honest effort, as well as gaining the experience of mistakes you will never make again.
Remember, no matter where you are now, whatever you can conceive and believe, you can achieve. Protect the most important thing you have - YOU
Cheers,
B
Tuesday, December 9, 2008
Self pity - a curse
Dear friends,
SELF-PITY IS AN OPIATE.
The most insidious problem with drugs is that the human body develops a tolerance for them and requires larger and larger doses to achieve the same effect. The same is true with self-pity. The more you allow yourself to indulge in it, the more you will require. Soon, self-pity will become a habit, one so debilitating that you will rob yourself of all the potential you possess.
Happily, there is a cure. If you truly analyze the situation, most often you will find that the problems that have driven you to pity yourself are mostly of your own creation. It follows, then, that the best person to remedy the problem is the person who created it: you yourself.
Cheers,
B
SELF-PITY IS AN OPIATE.
The most insidious problem with drugs is that the human body develops a tolerance for them and requires larger and larger doses to achieve the same effect. The same is true with self-pity. The more you allow yourself to indulge in it, the more you will require. Soon, self-pity will become a habit, one so debilitating that you will rob yourself of all the potential you possess.
Happily, there is a cure. If you truly analyze the situation, most often you will find that the problems that have driven you to pity yourself are mostly of your own creation. It follows, then, that the best person to remedy the problem is the person who created it: you yourself.
Cheers,
B
Monday, December 8, 2008
Failure - A reason to Change
Dear Friends,
FAILURE IS A BLESSING WHEN IT PUSHES US OUT OF A CUSHIONED SEAT OF SELF-SATISFACTION AND FORCES US TO DO SOMETHING USEFUL.
If you carefully study your own life and those of achievers whom you admire, it is an absolute certainty you will discover that your greatest opportunities often occurred during times of adversity. It is only when faced with the possibility of failure that we are willing to deal with radical change and take the risks that lead to great success.
When you experience temporary failure and you know that it is temporary, you can capitalize on the opportunities adversity always brings. It all depends on the individual and his take on accepting failure in a positive manner.
If everything we attempted in life were achieved with a minimum of effort and came out exactly as planned, how little we would learn-and how boring life would be! And how arrogant we would become if we succeeded at everything we attempted.
Failure allows us to develop the essential quality of humility. It is not easy (when you are the person experiencing failure) to accept it philosophically, serene in the knowledge that this is one of life's great learning experiences. But it is.
Nature's ways are not always easily understood, but they are repetitive and therefore predictable. You can be absolutely certain that when you feel you are being most unfairly tested, you are being prepared for great achievement.
regards,
B
FAILURE IS A BLESSING WHEN IT PUSHES US OUT OF A CUSHIONED SEAT OF SELF-SATISFACTION AND FORCES US TO DO SOMETHING USEFUL.
If you carefully study your own life and those of achievers whom you admire, it is an absolute certainty you will discover that your greatest opportunities often occurred during times of adversity. It is only when faced with the possibility of failure that we are willing to deal with radical change and take the risks that lead to great success.
When you experience temporary failure and you know that it is temporary, you can capitalize on the opportunities adversity always brings. It all depends on the individual and his take on accepting failure in a positive manner.
If everything we attempted in life were achieved with a minimum of effort and came out exactly as planned, how little we would learn-and how boring life would be! And how arrogant we would become if we succeeded at everything we attempted.
Failure allows us to develop the essential quality of humility. It is not easy (when you are the person experiencing failure) to accept it philosophically, serene in the knowledge that this is one of life's great learning experiences. But it is.
Nature's ways are not always easily understood, but they are repetitive and therefore predictable. You can be absolutely certain that when you feel you are being most unfairly tested, you are being prepared for great achievement.
regards,
B
Saturday, December 6, 2008
Two choices
Two Choices
What would you do?
You make the choice.
Don't look for a punch line, there isn't one. Read it anyway.
My question is: Would you have made the same choice?
At a fund-raising dinner for a school that serves children with learning disabilities, the father of one of the students delivered a speech that would never be forgotten by all who attended.
After extolling the school and its dedicated staff, he offered a question:
'When not interfered with by outside influences, everything nature does, is done with perfection. Yet my son, Shay, cannot learn things as other children do. He cannot understand things as other children do. Where is the natural order of things in my son?'
The audience was stilled by the query.
The father continued. 'I believe that when a child like Shay, who was mentally and physically disabled comes into the world, an opportunity to realize true human nature presents itself, and it comes in the way other people treat that child.'
Then he told the following story:
Shay and I had walked past a park where some boys, Shay knew were playing baseball. Shay asked, 'Do you think they'll let me play?'
I knew that most of the boys would not want someone like Shay on their team, but as a father, I also understood that if my son were allowed to play, it would give him a much-needed sense of belonging and some confidence to be accepted by others in spite of his handicaps.
I approached one of the boys on the field and asked (not expecting much), if Shay could play. The boy looked around for guidance and said, 'We're losing by six runs and the game is in the eighth inning. I guess he can be on our team and we'll try to put him in to bat in the ninth inning.'
Shay struggled over to the team's bench and, with a broad smile, put on a team shirt. I watched with a small tear in my eye and warmth in my heart. The boys saw my joy at my son being accepted.
In the bottom of the eighth inning, Shay's team scored a few runs but was still behind by three.
In the top of the ninth inning, Shay put on a glove and played in the right field. Even though no hits came his way, he was obviously ecstatic just to be in the game and on the field, grinning from ear to ear as I waved to him from the stands.
In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shay's team scored again. Now, with two outs and the bases loaded, the potential winning run was on base and Shay was scheduled to be next at bat. At this juncture, do they let Shay bat and give away their chance to win the game?
Surprisingly, Shay was given the bat. Everyone knew that a hit was all but impossible because Shay didn't even know how to hold the bat properly, much less connect with the ball.
However, as Shay stepped up to the plate, the pitcher, recognizing that the other team was putting winning aside for this moment in Shay's life, moved in a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shay could at least make contact.
The first pitch came and Shay swung clumsily and missed.
The pitcher again took a few steps forward to toss the ball softly towards Shay.
As the pitch came in, Shay swung at the ball and hit a slow ground ball right back to the pitcher.
The game would now be over.
The pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could have easily thrown the ball to the first baseman. Shay would have been out and that would have been the end of the game.
Instead, the pitcher threw the ball right over the first baseman's head, out of reach of all team mates.
Everyone from the stands and both teams started yelling, 'Shay, run to first! Run to first!'
Never in his life had Shay ever run that far, but he made it to first base. He scampered down the baseline, wide-eyed and startled.
Everyone yelled, 'Run to second, run to second!'
Catching his breath, Shay awkwardly ran towards second, gleaming and struggling to make it to the base. By the time Shay rounded towards second base, the right fielder had the ball. The smallest guy on their team who now had his first chance to be the hero for his team. He could have thrown the ball to the second-baseman for the tag, but he understood the pitcher's intentions so he, too, intentionally threw the ball high and far over the third-baseman's head. Shay ran toward third base deliriously as the runners ahead of him circled the bases toward home.
All were screaming, 'Shay, Shay, Shay, all the Way Shay'
Shay reached third base because the opposing shortstop ran to help him by turning him in the direction of third base, and shouted, 'Run to third!
Shay, run to third!' As Shay rounded third, the boys from both teams, and the spectators, were on their feet screaming, 'Shay, run home! Run home!'
Shay ran to home, stepped on the plate, and was cheered as the hero who hit the grand slam and won the game for his team
'That day', said the father softly with tears now rolling down his face, 'the boys. from both teams helped bring a piece of true love and humanity into this world'.
Shay didn't make it to another summer. He died that winter, having never forgotten being the hero and making me so happy, and coming home and seeing his mother tearfully embrace her little hero of the day!
AND NOW A LITTLE FOOT NOTE TO THIS STORY:
If you're thinking about forwarding this message, chances are that you're probably sorting out the people in your address book who aren't the 'appropriate' ones to receive this type of message Well, the person who sent you this believes that we all can make a difference.
We all have thousands of opportunities every single day to help realize the 'natural order of things.'
So many seemingly trivial interactions between two people present us with a
choice:
Do we pass along a little spark of love and humanity or do we pass up those
opportunities and leave the world a little bit colder in the process?
A wise man once said "Every society is judged by how it treats it's least fortunate amongst them".
What would you do?
You make the choice.
Don't look for a punch line, there isn't one. Read it anyway.
My question is: Would you have made the same choice?
At a fund-raising dinner for a school that serves children with learning disabilities, the father of one of the students delivered a speech that would never be forgotten by all who attended.
After extolling the school and its dedicated staff, he offered a question:
'When not interfered with by outside influences, everything nature does, is done with perfection. Yet my son, Shay, cannot learn things as other children do. He cannot understand things as other children do. Where is the natural order of things in my son?'
The audience was stilled by the query.
The father continued. 'I believe that when a child like Shay, who was mentally and physically disabled comes into the world, an opportunity to realize true human nature presents itself, and it comes in the way other people treat that child.'
Then he told the following story:
Shay and I had walked past a park where some boys, Shay knew were playing baseball. Shay asked, 'Do you think they'll let me play?'
I knew that most of the boys would not want someone like Shay on their team, but as a father, I also understood that if my son were allowed to play, it would give him a much-needed sense of belonging and some confidence to be accepted by others in spite of his handicaps.
I approached one of the boys on the field and asked (not expecting much), if Shay could play. The boy looked around for guidance and said, 'We're losing by six runs and the game is in the eighth inning. I guess he can be on our team and we'll try to put him in to bat in the ninth inning.'
Shay struggled over to the team's bench and, with a broad smile, put on a team shirt. I watched with a small tear in my eye and warmth in my heart. The boys saw my joy at my son being accepted.
In the bottom of the eighth inning, Shay's team scored a few runs but was still behind by three.
In the top of the ninth inning, Shay put on a glove and played in the right field. Even though no hits came his way, he was obviously ecstatic just to be in the game and on the field, grinning from ear to ear as I waved to him from the stands.
In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shay's team scored again. Now, with two outs and the bases loaded, the potential winning run was on base and Shay was scheduled to be next at bat. At this juncture, do they let Shay bat and give away their chance to win the game?
Surprisingly, Shay was given the bat. Everyone knew that a hit was all but impossible because Shay didn't even know how to hold the bat properly, much less connect with the ball.
However, as Shay stepped up to the plate, the pitcher, recognizing that the other team was putting winning aside for this moment in Shay's life, moved in a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shay could at least make contact.
The first pitch came and Shay swung clumsily and missed.
The pitcher again took a few steps forward to toss the ball softly towards Shay.
As the pitch came in, Shay swung at the ball and hit a slow ground ball right back to the pitcher.
The game would now be over.
The pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could have easily thrown the ball to the first baseman. Shay would have been out and that would have been the end of the game.
Instead, the pitcher threw the ball right over the first baseman's head, out of reach of all team mates.
Everyone from the stands and both teams started yelling, 'Shay, run to first! Run to first!'
Never in his life had Shay ever run that far, but he made it to first base. He scampered down the baseline, wide-eyed and startled.
Everyone yelled, 'Run to second, run to second!'
Catching his breath, Shay awkwardly ran towards second, gleaming and struggling to make it to the base. By the time Shay rounded towards second base, the right fielder had the ball. The smallest guy on their team who now had his first chance to be the hero for his team. He could have thrown the ball to the second-baseman for the tag, but he understood the pitcher's intentions so he, too, intentionally threw the ball high and far over the third-baseman's head. Shay ran toward third base deliriously as the runners ahead of him circled the bases toward home.
All were screaming, 'Shay, Shay, Shay, all the Way Shay'
Shay reached third base because the opposing shortstop ran to help him by turning him in the direction of third base, and shouted, 'Run to third!
Shay, run to third!' As Shay rounded third, the boys from both teams, and the spectators, were on their feet screaming, 'Shay, run home! Run home!'
Shay ran to home, stepped on the plate, and was cheered as the hero who hit the grand slam and won the game for his team
'That day', said the father softly with tears now rolling down his face, 'the boys. from both teams helped bring a piece of true love and humanity into this world'.
Shay didn't make it to another summer. He died that winter, having never forgotten being the hero and making me so happy, and coming home and seeing his mother tearfully embrace her little hero of the day!
AND NOW A LITTLE FOOT NOTE TO THIS STORY:
If you're thinking about forwarding this message, chances are that you're probably sorting out the people in your address book who aren't the 'appropriate' ones to receive this type of message Well, the person who sent you this believes that we all can make a difference.
We all have thousands of opportunities every single day to help realize the 'natural order of things.'
So many seemingly trivial interactions between two people present us with a
choice:
Do we pass along a little spark of love and humanity or do we pass up those
opportunities and leave the world a little bit colder in the process?
A wise man once said "Every society is judged by how it treats it's least fortunate amongst them".
Life a mixture of Love and Understanding
Dear Friends,
I was actually thinking about what to write on LIFE, when I hit upon this beautiful story and the same is about LIFE, LOVE and UNDERSTANDING (written by Steve Goodier). This is something that every Man and Woman should go through - they will understand the importance of each other in their life.
You've heard it said: "Love is patient and kind." If love is patient, it may be because love is truly understanding.
Do you know what the most common craving is among pregnant women? (I'm sure this is factual.) The most common craving among pregnant women is not spicy food, pickles or ice cream. Not even close.
It is for MEN to get pregnant. Why? Because then they would know what it is like! Then they might be more patient.
What most women need during times of cravings, discomfort, swollen ankles and morning sickness is... understanding. Much of our conflict is simply misunderstanding.
As a new bride, one woman moved into the small home on her husband's ranch in the mountains. She put a shoe box on a shelf in her closet and asked her husband never to touch it.
For 50 years he left the box alone, until his life partner was old and dying. One day when he was putting their affairs in order, he found the box again and thought it might hold something important. Opening it, he discovered two doilies and $82,500 in cash. He took the box to her and asked about the contents. "My mother gave me that box the day we married," she explained. "She told me to make a doily to help ease my frustrations every time I got mad at you." Her husband was touched that in 50 years she'd only been upset enough to make two doilies. "What's the $82,500 for?" he asked. She explained, "Oh, well that's the money I've made selling the doilies." (Pity isn't it - We men don't understand our women very well)
Marge Piercy beautifully said, "Life is the first gift, love is the second and understanding is the third." But it is love that gives us life and understanding that brings about love. Making dollies might take your mind off the problem, but it won't change anything. The path from conflict to love is not by way of arts and crafts. It is through the valley of understanding.
Cheers,
B
I was actually thinking about what to write on LIFE, when I hit upon this beautiful story and the same is about LIFE, LOVE and UNDERSTANDING (written by Steve Goodier). This is something that every Man and Woman should go through - they will understand the importance of each other in their life.
You've heard it said: "Love is patient and kind." If love is patient, it may be because love is truly understanding.
Do you know what the most common craving is among pregnant women? (I'm sure this is factual.) The most common craving among pregnant women is not spicy food, pickles or ice cream. Not even close.
It is for MEN to get pregnant. Why? Because then they would know what it is like! Then they might be more patient.
What most women need during times of cravings, discomfort, swollen ankles and morning sickness is... understanding. Much of our conflict is simply misunderstanding.
As a new bride, one woman moved into the small home on her husband's ranch in the mountains. She put a shoe box on a shelf in her closet and asked her husband never to touch it.
For 50 years he left the box alone, until his life partner was old and dying. One day when he was putting their affairs in order, he found the box again and thought it might hold something important. Opening it, he discovered two doilies and $82,500 in cash. He took the box to her and asked about the contents. "My mother gave me that box the day we married," she explained. "She told me to make a doily to help ease my frustrations every time I got mad at you." Her husband was touched that in 50 years she'd only been upset enough to make two doilies. "What's the $82,500 for?" he asked. She explained, "Oh, well that's the money I've made selling the doilies." (Pity isn't it - We men don't understand our women very well)
Marge Piercy beautifully said, "Life is the first gift, love is the second and understanding is the third." But it is love that gives us life and understanding that brings about love. Making dollies might take your mind off the problem, but it won't change anything. The path from conflict to love is not by way of arts and crafts. It is through the valley of understanding.
Cheers,
B
Alter your Attitude
Dear Friends
The greatest discovery of this generation is that a Human being can alter their LIFE by altering their attitude.
I believe this all my heart and over the years have seen it happen as well. What most people fail to realise is that, your attitude not only impact your happiness and your success, it also can impact the happiness and success of people (friends and family) around you.
Attitude truly are contagious. And from time to time, we need to ask ourselves...... "Is mine worth CATCHING"
Cheers,
B
The greatest discovery of this generation is that a Human being can alter their LIFE by altering their attitude.
I believe this all my heart and over the years have seen it happen as well. What most people fail to realise is that, your attitude not only impact your happiness and your success, it also can impact the happiness and success of people (friends and family) around you.
Attitude truly are contagious. And from time to time, we need to ask ourselves...... "Is mine worth CATCHING"
Cheers,
B
Be n control
Dear friends,
Human faults are like garden weeds. They grow without cultivation and soon take over the place if they aren't thinned out.
Habits are formed so slowly that most of us don't realize what is happening until the habits are too strongly entrenched to be broken. Seldom can one pattern of behavior be eliminated without replacing it with another. It has been said that nature abhors a vacuum and will always find something to fill a void.
The best way to thin out the "weeds," or faults in your character, is to identify those traits with which you are dissatisfied and replace them with their positive counterparts. If you have a tendency to lose your temper, for example, find a replacement for your anger. Neutralize it with a positive expression or affirmation such as, No one can make me angry unless I let them. I will not let anyone else control my emotions.
Cheers,
B
Human faults are like garden weeds. They grow without cultivation and soon take over the place if they aren't thinned out.
Habits are formed so slowly that most of us don't realize what is happening until the habits are too strongly entrenched to be broken. Seldom can one pattern of behavior be eliminated without replacing it with another. It has been said that nature abhors a vacuum and will always find something to fill a void.
The best way to thin out the "weeds," or faults in your character, is to identify those traits with which you are dissatisfied and replace them with their positive counterparts. If you have a tendency to lose your temper, for example, find a replacement for your anger. Neutralize it with a positive expression or affirmation such as, No one can make me angry unless I let them. I will not let anyone else control my emotions.
Cheers,
B
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