Dear Friends,
I was actually thinking about what to write on LIFE, when I hit upon this beautiful story and the same is about LIFE, LOVE and UNDERSTANDING (written by Steve Goodier). This is something that every Man and Woman should go through - they will understand the importance of each other in their life.
You've heard it said: "Love is patient and kind." If love is patient, it may be because love is truly understanding.
Do you know what the most common craving is among pregnant women? (I'm sure this is factual.) The most common craving among pregnant women is not spicy food, pickles or ice cream. Not even close.
It is for MEN to get pregnant. Why? Because then they would know what it is like! Then they might be more patient.
What most women need during times of cravings, discomfort, swollen ankles and morning sickness is... understanding. Much of our conflict is simply misunderstanding.
As a new bride, one woman moved into the small home on her husband's ranch in the mountains. She put a shoe box on a shelf in her closet and asked her husband never to touch it.
For 50 years he left the box alone, until his life partner was old and dying. One day when he was putting their affairs in order, he found the box again and thought it might hold something important. Opening it, he discovered two doilies and $82,500 in cash. He took the box to her and asked about the contents. "My mother gave me that box the day we married," she explained. "She told me to make a doily to help ease my frustrations every time I got mad at you." Her husband was touched that in 50 years she'd only been upset enough to make two doilies. "What's the $82,500 for?" he asked. She explained, "Oh, well that's the money I've made selling the doilies." (Pity isn't it - We men don't understand our women very well)
Marge Piercy beautifully said, "Life is the first gift, love is the second and understanding is the third." But it is love that gives us life and understanding that brings about love. Making dollies might take your mind off the problem, but it won't change anything. The path from conflict to love is not by way of arts and crafts. It is through the valley of understanding.
Cheers,
B
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Saturday, December 6, 2008
Alter your Attitude
Dear Friends
The greatest discovery of this generation is that a Human being can alter their LIFE by altering their attitude.
I believe this all my heart and over the years have seen it happen as well. What most people fail to realise is that, your attitude not only impact your happiness and your success, it also can impact the happiness and success of people (friends and family) around you.
Attitude truly are contagious. And from time to time, we need to ask ourselves...... "Is mine worth CATCHING"
Cheers,
B
The greatest discovery of this generation is that a Human being can alter their LIFE by altering their attitude.
I believe this all my heart and over the years have seen it happen as well. What most people fail to realise is that, your attitude not only impact your happiness and your success, it also can impact the happiness and success of people (friends and family) around you.
Attitude truly are contagious. And from time to time, we need to ask ourselves...... "Is mine worth CATCHING"
Cheers,
B
Be n control
Dear friends,
Human faults are like garden weeds. They grow without cultivation and soon take over the place if they aren't thinned out.
Habits are formed so slowly that most of us don't realize what is happening until the habits are too strongly entrenched to be broken. Seldom can one pattern of behavior be eliminated without replacing it with another. It has been said that nature abhors a vacuum and will always find something to fill a void.
The best way to thin out the "weeds," or faults in your character, is to identify those traits with which you are dissatisfied and replace them with their positive counterparts. If you have a tendency to lose your temper, for example, find a replacement for your anger. Neutralize it with a positive expression or affirmation such as, No one can make me angry unless I let them. I will not let anyone else control my emotions.
Cheers,
B
Human faults are like garden weeds. They grow without cultivation and soon take over the place if they aren't thinned out.
Habits are formed so slowly that most of us don't realize what is happening until the habits are too strongly entrenched to be broken. Seldom can one pattern of behavior be eliminated without replacing it with another. It has been said that nature abhors a vacuum and will always find something to fill a void.
The best way to thin out the "weeds," or faults in your character, is to identify those traits with which you are dissatisfied and replace them with their positive counterparts. If you have a tendency to lose your temper, for example, find a replacement for your anger. Neutralize it with a positive expression or affirmation such as, No one can make me angry unless I let them. I will not let anyone else control my emotions.
Cheers,
B
Thursday, November 27, 2008
Its your positive mind that will help you achieve anything
SUCCESS ATTRACTS SUCCESS AND FAILURE ATTRACTS FAILURE BECAUSE OF THE LAW OF HARMONIOUS ATTRACTION.
In physics, positives attract negatives and vice versa, but in human relationships the opposite is true. Negative people attract only other negative people, while positive thinkers attract like-minded individuals. You will find that when you begin to achieve success more successes will follow. This is the law of harmonious attraction.
Train your mind to visualize yourself achieving a certain goal - whatever you most desire. Then use self-suggestion to persuade your subconscious mind that you can achieve your goal, and put your plan into action.
When you use the tools that you have at your disposal to prepare yourself for success and visualize yourself as having already reached your objective, you can achieve any reasonable goal that you set for yourself.
In physics, positives attract negatives and vice versa, but in human relationships the opposite is true. Negative people attract only other negative people, while positive thinkers attract like-minded individuals. You will find that when you begin to achieve success more successes will follow. This is the law of harmonious attraction.
Train your mind to visualize yourself achieving a certain goal - whatever you most desire. Then use self-suggestion to persuade your subconscious mind that you can achieve your goal, and put your plan into action.
When you use the tools that you have at your disposal to prepare yourself for success and visualize yourself as having already reached your objective, you can achieve any reasonable goal that you set for yourself.
Wednesday, November 19, 2008
Be open to CRITICISM
Dear Friends,
MOST OF US DON'T MIND BEING TOLD OF OUR FAULTS IF THE CRITIC IS GENEROUS ENOUGH TO MIX IN A FEW OF OUR VIRTUES AS WELL - In other words, a lot of us don't like to be criticised. We feel, we know it all. (Start questioning this attitude, if you aren't still)
It's a normal reaction to defend ourselves and our behavior when someone criticizes us - even if we secretly recognize that what we're being told is correct.
Those who achieve great success in life, however, are those who have learned to set aside their emotions and learn from others, even when the message is unpleasant. If you find yourself being evaluated by someone else, tell yourself that criticism of some aspect of your performance is not a personal attack. Control your emotional reaction and adopt useful ideas even though you may dislike the manner in which the information is delivered.
Accepting CRITICISM will bring the best out of you - something that you have not even thought of.
MOST OF US DON'T MIND BEING TOLD OF OUR FAULTS IF THE CRITIC IS GENEROUS ENOUGH TO MIX IN A FEW OF OUR VIRTUES AS WELL - In other words, a lot of us don't like to be criticised. We feel, we know it all. (Start questioning this attitude, if you aren't still)
It's a normal reaction to defend ourselves and our behavior when someone criticizes us - even if we secretly recognize that what we're being told is correct.
Those who achieve great success in life, however, are those who have learned to set aside their emotions and learn from others, even when the message is unpleasant. If you find yourself being evaluated by someone else, tell yourself that criticism of some aspect of your performance is not a personal attack. Control your emotional reaction and adopt useful ideas even though you may dislike the manner in which the information is delivered.
Accepting CRITICISM will bring the best out of you - something that you have not even thought of.
Monday, November 17, 2008
Relationship is the KEY to success
Dear Friends,
ALL ENDURING SUCCESS IS FOUNDED UPON HARMONIOUS HUMAN RELATIONSHIPS.
Most of us are incapable of "going it alone" - (Are there any who believe they have been RAMBO's in their life). Whether it is in our careers, our personal relationships or in life, we all need others (team or a companion), if we are to achieve the level of success we desire. Besides, what's the point of having it all, if we have no one we care about to share it?
You may choose to work with others, you may ignore them, or you may choose to work against them, but the greatest successes in life come to those who work harmoniously with others. When your personal goals coincide with those of another, not only does the power of your combined labors benefit you, but such cooperation also creates a synergistic effect that allows you to achieve far more than the simple sum of your individual efforts.
Remember that "friendship freely given and gratefully received is one of life's greatest gifts".
Cheers,
B
ALL ENDURING SUCCESS IS FOUNDED UPON HARMONIOUS HUMAN RELATIONSHIPS.
Most of us are incapable of "going it alone" - (Are there any who believe they have been RAMBO's in their life). Whether it is in our careers, our personal relationships or in life, we all need others (team or a companion), if we are to achieve the level of success we desire. Besides, what's the point of having it all, if we have no one we care about to share it?
You may choose to work with others, you may ignore them, or you may choose to work against them, but the greatest successes in life come to those who work harmoniously with others. When your personal goals coincide with those of another, not only does the power of your combined labors benefit you, but such cooperation also creates a synergistic effect that allows you to achieve far more than the simple sum of your individual efforts.
Remember that "friendship freely given and gratefully received is one of life's greatest gifts".
Cheers,
B
Don't Give Up
Dear Friends,
I BELIEVE, EDISON FAILED 10,000 TIMES BEFORE PERFECTING THE INCANDESCENT ELECTRIC LIGHTBULB.
DON'T WORRY IF YOU FAIL ONCE.
Arguably America's greatest inventor, Thomas Edison had an extraordinarily positive perception of life that greatly enhanced his ability as an inventory. When others might have been hopelessly discouraged after failing thousands of times in an attempt to develop an electric light, the great Edison simply viewed each unsuccessful experiment as the elimination of a solution that wouldn't work, thereby moving him that much closer to a successful solution.
We could all take a lesson from Edison. Stories abound about inventors who quit trying and gave up too soon or miners who struck gold just a few feet beyond where someone else quit digging. There are few obstacles in life that will not succumb to consistent, sustained, intelligent, positive action. When you are discouraged after you've failed at something, remember Edison's 10,000 failures before he arrived at the solution that forever changed the world.
I am sure that this would change our lives. Failure is a reality and we only learn through failure thus don't fear but look at the same in the positive light and you will succeed.
Cheers,
B
I BELIEVE, EDISON FAILED 10,000 TIMES BEFORE PERFECTING THE INCANDESCENT ELECTRIC LIGHTBULB.
DON'T WORRY IF YOU FAIL ONCE.
Arguably America's greatest inventor, Thomas Edison had an extraordinarily positive perception of life that greatly enhanced his ability as an inventory. When others might have been hopelessly discouraged after failing thousands of times in an attempt to develop an electric light, the great Edison simply viewed each unsuccessful experiment as the elimination of a solution that wouldn't work, thereby moving him that much closer to a successful solution.
We could all take a lesson from Edison. Stories abound about inventors who quit trying and gave up too soon or miners who struck gold just a few feet beyond where someone else quit digging. There are few obstacles in life that will not succumb to consistent, sustained, intelligent, positive action. When you are discouraged after you've failed at something, remember Edison's 10,000 failures before he arrived at the solution that forever changed the world.
I am sure that this would change our lives. Failure is a reality and we only learn through failure thus don't fear but look at the same in the positive light and you will succeed.
Cheers,
B
Wednesday, November 12, 2008
Relationship is a key to Success
Dear Friends,
ALL ENDURING SUCCESS IS FOUNDED UPON HARMONIOUS HUMAN RELATIONSHIPS.
Most of us are incapable of "going it alone" - (Are there any who believe they have been RAMBO's in their life). Whether it is in our careers, our personal relationships or in life, we all need others (team or a companion), if we are to achieve the level of success we desire. Besides, what's the point of having it all, if we have no one we care about to share it?
You may choose to work with others, you may ignore them, or you may choose to work against them, but the greatest successes in life come to those who work harmoniously with others. When your personal goals coincide with those of another, not only does the power of your combined labors benefit you, but such cooperation also creates a synergistic effect that allows you to achieve far more than the simple sum of your individual efforts.
Remember that "friendship freely given and gratefully received is one of life's greatest gifts".
ALL ENDURING SUCCESS IS FOUNDED UPON HARMONIOUS HUMAN RELATIONSHIPS.
Most of us are incapable of "going it alone" - (Are there any who believe they have been RAMBO's in their life). Whether it is in our careers, our personal relationships or in life, we all need others (team or a companion), if we are to achieve the level of success we desire. Besides, what's the point of having it all, if we have no one we care about to share it?
You may choose to work with others, you may ignore them, or you may choose to work against them, but the greatest successes in life come to those who work harmoniously with others. When your personal goals coincide with those of another, not only does the power of your combined labors benefit you, but such cooperation also creates a synergistic effect that allows you to achieve far more than the simple sum of your individual efforts.
Remember that "friendship freely given and gratefully received is one of life's greatest gifts".
Monday, November 10, 2008
Treat others the way you want to be treated
Dear Friends,
Its been a long time since I last sent some good thoughts. High time for me to get into some action to uplift my own spirits and YOURS.
A GOOD FISHERMAN GOES OUT OF HIS WAY TO BAIT HIS HOOK WITH WHAT THE FISH PREFER - WHICH MIGHT NOT BE A BAD TIP FOR THOSE WHO WISH TO SUCCEED IN HUMAN RELATIONSHIPS.
Just as in a conversation its a good idea to listen more than you talk, it is also wise in relationships to think about the well-being of others more than you think about your own wishes and desires. When you constantly strive to treat others in the same way you would like them to treat you, you become a person whom others like to be around, one who commands their respect, confidence, and loyalty.
When you learn to manage emotions and your ego, and when you learn to always consider the needs and desires of others, it is inevitable that you will "bait your hook" with kindness and consideration, and catch more friends than you can count.
Any takers.....
Its been a long time since I last sent some good thoughts. High time for me to get into some action to uplift my own spirits and YOURS.
A GOOD FISHERMAN GOES OUT OF HIS WAY TO BAIT HIS HOOK WITH WHAT THE FISH PREFER - WHICH MIGHT NOT BE A BAD TIP FOR THOSE WHO WISH TO SUCCEED IN HUMAN RELATIONSHIPS.
Just as in a conversation its a good idea to listen more than you talk, it is also wise in relationships to think about the well-being of others more than you think about your own wishes and desires. When you constantly strive to treat others in the same way you would like them to treat you, you become a person whom others like to be around, one who commands their respect, confidence, and loyalty.
When you learn to manage emotions and your ego, and when you learn to always consider the needs and desires of others, it is inevitable that you will "bait your hook" with kindness and consideration, and catch more friends than you can count.
Any takers.....
Thursday, November 6, 2008
Have clear focused objectives in LIFE to move ahead
Dear Friends,
If you don't know what you want from LIFE, what do you think, you will get?
The great majority of people in the world drift through life, never realizing that their future will be the one they create for themselves. The minority who achieve great success are people who know what they want and have a plan for realizing their objectives. They know what they want and how they are going to get it.
Your goals should be specific, they should be measurable, they should have a deadline for their achievement, and they should be divided into manageable pieces. Know exactly what you plan to achieve, when you plan to achieve it, and how. Review your progress regularly, correct your course when necessary, and never, never give up.
If you are ever to achieve noteworthy success in your life, you must be willing to stand apart from the crowd.
Success is something that is achieved by the minority, not the majority, of people. You will also discover as you climb the ladder of success that there are many who, out of jealousy or envy, will belittle your achievements. Nevertheless, if you have the courage of your convictions, nothing can deter you from your course.
You develop confidence in your beliefs by doing your own thinking and by constantly testing and revising your knowledge.
Use W. Clement Stone's R2A2 Principle to Recognize and Relate, Assimilate and Apply information from any field to help solve your problems and direct your thinking.
If you don't know what you want from LIFE, what do you think, you will get?
The great majority of people in the world drift through life, never realizing that their future will be the one they create for themselves. The minority who achieve great success are people who know what they want and have a plan for realizing their objectives. They know what they want and how they are going to get it.
Your goals should be specific, they should be measurable, they should have a deadline for their achievement, and they should be divided into manageable pieces. Know exactly what you plan to achieve, when you plan to achieve it, and how. Review your progress regularly, correct your course when necessary, and never, never give up.
If you are ever to achieve noteworthy success in your life, you must be willing to stand apart from the crowd.
Success is something that is achieved by the minority, not the majority, of people. You will also discover as you climb the ladder of success that there are many who, out of jealousy or envy, will belittle your achievements. Nevertheless, if you have the courage of your convictions, nothing can deter you from your course.
You develop confidence in your beliefs by doing your own thinking and by constantly testing and revising your knowledge.
Use W. Clement Stone's R2A2 Principle to Recognize and Relate, Assimilate and Apply information from any field to help solve your problems and direct your thinking.
The ThinkIng Fruit
Dear Friends,
No one could ride a Horse if the Horse discovered its real strength. The same applies for people as well.
We all know that horses are massive, gentle creatures who are by far larger and stronger than men and women who handle them, yet they docilely obey the commands they are given. It doesn’t seem logical that a large, powerful animal would
allow itself to be mastered by a human being, yet we have been able to use
our intelligence to dominate the animal kingdom.
The learning out here is we can use these same forces to allow the positive side of ourself to dominate the negative. A Positive mental attitude allows us to tap the source of great power that
resides within us, enabling us to accomplish things we never before believed were possible.
No one could ride a Horse if the Horse discovered its real strength. The same applies for people as well.
We all know that horses are massive, gentle creatures who are by far larger and stronger than men and women who handle them, yet they docilely obey the commands they are given. It doesn’t seem logical that a large, powerful animal would
allow itself to be mastered by a human being, yet we have been able to use
our intelligence to dominate the animal kingdom.
The learning out here is we can use these same forces to allow the positive side of ourself to dominate the negative. A Positive mental attitude allows us to tap the source of great power that
resides within us, enabling us to accomplish things we never before believed were possible.
Tuesday, November 4, 2008
Thought of the Day
Dear Friends,
No one could ride a Horse if the Horse discovered its real strength. The same applies for people as well.
We all know that horses are massive, gentle creatures who are by far larger and stronger than men and women who handle them, yet they docilely obey the commands they are given. It doesn’t seem logical that a large, powerful animal would
allow itself to be mastered by a human being, yet we have been able to use
our intelligence to dominate the animal kingdom.
The learning out here is we can use these same forces to allow the positive side of ourself to dominate the negative. A Positive mental attitude allows us to tap the source of great power that
resides within us, enabling us to accomplish things we never before believed were possible.
No one could ride a Horse if the Horse discovered its real strength. The same applies for people as well.
We all know that horses are massive, gentle creatures who are by far larger and stronger than men and women who handle them, yet they docilely obey the commands they are given. It doesn’t seem logical that a large, powerful animal would
allow itself to be mastered by a human being, yet we have been able to use
our intelligence to dominate the animal kingdom.
The learning out here is we can use these same forces to allow the positive side of ourself to dominate the negative. A Positive mental attitude allows us to tap the source of great power that
resides within us, enabling us to accomplish things we never before believed were possible.
CHANGE-Beautiful indeed
Dear Friends,
Please excuse me if you find this a bit too dragging.
What happens when people particularly some of your best colleagues in your organization leave - They leave a vacuum behind or atleast that's what we feel for sometime when they are gone (especially if the person has a combining exemplary professional skills with a sweet nature and gentle character). Life has a way of throwing these curve balls at us. Just when we start getting comfortable with a person, place or a situation, something comes along to alter the recipe - A terrific neighbour moves away, someone in the family graduates and moves, a child finds new love and loyalties through marraige or the family's principle bread winner is laid off. There have been various such cases but its a matter of time and LIFE is normal again.
To a great degree, our ability to cope with change and disruption determines happiness and contentment in life.
But how do we do that?
Based on a philosophers thought, comfort can be found in remembering that "to everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under heaven" - Let TODAY embrace the past with remembrance, and the future with longing.
I believe that SURVIVABILITY depends upon ADAPTABILITY. The answer to life's problem can be summed up in four words: "Go with the FLOW"
Once I read something in a surfer's column, which I had recorded in my book - "Its like surfing; you can't organize the ocean. Waves just happen. You ride them where they take you, then you paddle back out there and catch the next one. Sure, you're always hoping for the perfect wave where you can get. But mostly, ypu just take them the way they come".
I"m not exactly sure, but I thought that the surfer meant "Life is a series of events" - Both good and bad. No matter how smart our organizational skills are, there will always be life influencing factors over which we have no control. The truly successful person expects the unexpected, and is prepared to make adjustment should the need arise - as it almost always does.
That doesn't mean, we don't keep trying to make all our dreams come true. It just means that when things come up that aren't exactly in our plan, we work around them and then we move on. Ofcourse, some bumps along the road of life are easier to take on than OTHERS. But the principle is the same.
A famous philosopher, Thomas Carlyle once said "Change, indeed, is painful, yet ever needful. And if memories have its force and worth, so also has HOPE"
SO, rather than dwelling in something that is painful, let's focus on our HOPES for a brighter future. And then we'll go out and do everything we can to make that future happen.
UNTIL our plans change - AGAIN.
Cheers to CHANGE
Please excuse me if you find this a bit too dragging.
What happens when people particularly some of your best colleagues in your organization leave - They leave a vacuum behind or atleast that's what we feel for sometime when they are gone (especially if the person has a combining exemplary professional skills with a sweet nature and gentle character). Life has a way of throwing these curve balls at us. Just when we start getting comfortable with a person, place or a situation, something comes along to alter the recipe - A terrific neighbour moves away, someone in the family graduates and moves, a child finds new love and loyalties through marraige or the family's principle bread winner is laid off. There have been various such cases but its a matter of time and LIFE is normal again.
To a great degree, our ability to cope with change and disruption determines happiness and contentment in life.
But how do we do that?
Based on a philosophers thought, comfort can be found in remembering that "to everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under heaven" - Let TODAY embrace the past with remembrance, and the future with longing.
I believe that SURVIVABILITY depends upon ADAPTABILITY. The answer to life's problem can be summed up in four words: "Go with the FLOW"
Once I read something in a surfer's column, which I had recorded in my book - "Its like surfing; you can't organize the ocean. Waves just happen. You ride them where they take you, then you paddle back out there and catch the next one. Sure, you're always hoping for the perfect wave where you can get. But mostly, ypu just take them the way they come".
I"m not exactly sure, but I thought that the surfer meant "Life is a series of events" - Both good and bad. No matter how smart our organizational skills are, there will always be life influencing factors over which we have no control. The truly successful person expects the unexpected, and is prepared to make adjustment should the need arise - as it almost always does.
That doesn't mean, we don't keep trying to make all our dreams come true. It just means that when things come up that aren't exactly in our plan, we work around them and then we move on. Ofcourse, some bumps along the road of life are easier to take on than OTHERS. But the principle is the same.
A famous philosopher, Thomas Carlyle once said "Change, indeed, is painful, yet ever needful. And if memories have its force and worth, so also has HOPE"
SO, rather than dwelling in something that is painful, let's focus on our HOPES for a brighter future. And then we'll go out and do everything we can to make that future happen.
UNTIL our plans change - AGAIN.
Cheers to CHANGE
Monday, November 3, 2008
Obstacles - Are they Challenges or Hurdles
Dear Friends,
It's important to keep your mind fixed on what you want in LIFE, and not on unimportant stuff..
We have just begun to explore the inner workings of the mind, but we have long been aware of the effects of our thoughts. As it is rightly said that 'Thoughts becomes things' and thus we should always think Positive.
When you focus on not missing the target instead of on hitting the bull's-eye, the results are often disastrous.
Why?
The statement might sound the same but it is impossible to think negative thoughts in a positive way. Thus the focus has to be to 'Hit the bulls-eye' rather 'Not missing the target'.
Ask any golfer who has tried not to miss a putt or a bowler who has struggled not to miss a strike.
GOT IT or MISSED IT
Its all about the positive thoughts which turns into positve things.
Make sure your goals are specific and precise.
"Making a lot of money" or "earning regular promotions" are wishes, not goals.
State exactly how much money you expect to earn and by when, and the specific promotion you want, how you plan to earn it, (Read again - EARN IT) and when you expect to do so.
Goal setting is important in life whether personal or professional but only when you are focused, will you be able to achieve the GOALS.
"Obstacles are those frightening things you see when you take your eye off the target." - If you are sure of your objective these so called OBSTACLES will be seen as challenges and not HURDLES.
Anyone thinks differently...
It's important to keep your mind fixed on what you want in LIFE, and not on unimportant stuff..
We have just begun to explore the inner workings of the mind, but we have long been aware of the effects of our thoughts. As it is rightly said that 'Thoughts becomes things' and thus we should always think Positive.
When you focus on not missing the target instead of on hitting the bull's-eye, the results are often disastrous.
Why?
The statement might sound the same but it is impossible to think negative thoughts in a positive way. Thus the focus has to be to 'Hit the bulls-eye' rather 'Not missing the target'.
Ask any golfer who has tried not to miss a putt or a bowler who has struggled not to miss a strike.
GOT IT or MISSED IT
Its all about the positive thoughts which turns into positve things.
Make sure your goals are specific and precise.
"Making a lot of money" or "earning regular promotions" are wishes, not goals.
State exactly how much money you expect to earn and by when, and the specific promotion you want, how you plan to earn it, (Read again - EARN IT) and when you expect to do so.
Goal setting is important in life whether personal or professional but only when you are focused, will you be able to achieve the GOALS.
"Obstacles are those frightening things you see when you take your eye off the target." - If you are sure of your objective these so called OBSTACLES will be seen as challenges and not HURDLES.
Anyone thinks differently...
Uplift your innerself
Dear Friends,
What's important first is to change your mental attitude and approach and you will notice that the world around you will change accordingly.
Your world will become what you choose to make it. You can reach great heights of success, or you can settle for a miserable life that is devoid of hope. The choice is yours.
When you choose a positive course, you set in motion an unstoppable force that will allow you to have a fulfilling career, the love of your family and friends, good physical and mental health, and all of the other true riches of life. To change your world, you must change it from the inside out. You must begin with yourself.
Focus on self upliftment and not materialistic living, you will automatically see yourself only moving forward in life.
When you choose the course that puts your life on a positive track, you will change your life for the better, and you will also positively influence the people with whom you come in contact - Don't forget when you think positive, you create a positive aura which will automatically reflect on others.
What's important first is to change your mental attitude and approach and you will notice that the world around you will change accordingly.
Your world will become what you choose to make it. You can reach great heights of success, or you can settle for a miserable life that is devoid of hope. The choice is yours.
When you choose a positive course, you set in motion an unstoppable force that will allow you to have a fulfilling career, the love of your family and friends, good physical and mental health, and all of the other true riches of life. To change your world, you must change it from the inside out. You must begin with yourself.
Focus on self upliftment and not materialistic living, you will automatically see yourself only moving forward in life.
When you choose the course that puts your life on a positive track, you will change your life for the better, and you will also positively influence the people with whom you come in contact - Don't forget when you think positive, you create a positive aura which will automatically reflect on others.
Saturday, November 1, 2008
THINK POSITIVE
By Ernest Vinaya Kumar
If you want to live longer, be happy, healthy and successful, all you have to do is tell yourself that you can do it by tapping the healing forces within.
There is no greater joy than a healthy, positive life.
* You feel exhilarated, energetic, happy and on top of the world.
* A sense of total well being permeates your mind.
* The future looks bright.
* You feel good to be alive.
Great, but how do we get out of our innumerable worries, tensions and fears that the increasingly competitive life burdens us with?
Simple!
Tell yourself that you are good, healthy and capable.
That's the power of positive affirmations.
Such affirmations are also called self-suggestions. It is a powerful tool for transforming your inner self into an amazing health generating, self-healing entity.
You can record these affirmations on a tape
synchronized with pleasant instrumental music and replay them often to make
them more effective and permanent
TRY IT.
If you want to live longer, be happy, healthy and successful, all you have to do is tell yourself that you can do it by tapping the healing forces within.
There is no greater joy than a healthy, positive life.
* You feel exhilarated, energetic, happy and on top of the world.
* A sense of total well being permeates your mind.
* The future looks bright.
* You feel good to be alive.
Great, but how do we get out of our innumerable worries, tensions and fears that the increasingly competitive life burdens us with?
Simple!
Tell yourself that you are good, healthy and capable.
That's the power of positive affirmations.
Such affirmations are also called self-suggestions. It is a powerful tool for transforming your inner self into an amazing health generating, self-healing entity.
You can record these affirmations on a tape
synchronized with pleasant instrumental music and replay them often to make
them more effective and permanent
TRY IT.
Defeat-Is it a Reality
Dear Friends,
It isn't DEFEAT, but rather your mental attitude toward it that whips you. Change your thoughts and "Everythings gonna be OK"
There are many things in life that you cannot control, but you can always control your attitude toward them. Defeat is never permanent unless you allow it to be so. When you have a positive attitude, you will recognize failure for the impostor that it is and realize that it is really a learning experience, a valuable lesson that will help you succeed with the next attempt. We should never be afraid of failure - its only then we will deliver.
Ask yourself:
* What could I have done differently that would have altered the outcome?
* What can I do in the future to minimize problems and mistakes?
* What did I learn from this experience that I can put to good use next time?
If you approach obstacles and setbacks with a positive attitude, you will be surprised how quickly you can turn defeat into victory.
Isn't it so easy - it's the PARADIGM shift that is needed.
A lot of people ask me when I send these writeups to them "Do you believe and practice what you say?"
Belief 200%, coz I write my feelings as well - Practice, I try my best but at times, I have failed. Of late, I have continuously reminded myself and believe me, the more I write, the more this has turned into reality.
Cheers,
B
It isn't DEFEAT, but rather your mental attitude toward it that whips you. Change your thoughts and "Everythings gonna be OK"
There are many things in life that you cannot control, but you can always control your attitude toward them. Defeat is never permanent unless you allow it to be so. When you have a positive attitude, you will recognize failure for the impostor that it is and realize that it is really a learning experience, a valuable lesson that will help you succeed with the next attempt. We should never be afraid of failure - its only then we will deliver.
Ask yourself:
* What could I have done differently that would have altered the outcome?
* What can I do in the future to minimize problems and mistakes?
* What did I learn from this experience that I can put to good use next time?
If you approach obstacles and setbacks with a positive attitude, you will be surprised how quickly you can turn defeat into victory.
Isn't it so easy - it's the PARADIGM shift that is needed.
A lot of people ask me when I send these writeups to them "Do you believe and practice what you say?"
Belief 200%, coz I write my feelings as well - Practice, I try my best but at times, I have failed. Of late, I have continuously reminded myself and believe me, the more I write, the more this has turned into reality.
Cheers,
B
Friday, October 24, 2008
Strength of positive mental attitude
Dear Friends,
Today I got into a conversation with a colleague of mine who. believes that negative thoughts are inevitable and however one tries to be positive, at times it is situations that stands far too stronger and it is beyond control.
Time and again we hear stories about ordinary people who do seemingly impossible things when they find themselves in an emergency situation. They perform herculean feats of strength and endurance, things they never dreamed, they were capable of doing.
Way back during my school days, I heard of a story where a mother (who used to work in the field) lifted a tree which fell on her infant child and she didn't even realise what she did - ofcourse, it was her love for the child but at the same time a positive mental attitude.
Wouldn't it be wonderful if you could harness that strength and make it available anytime you need it?
Hmmmmm.... Now that's something to ponder upon!
You can - only if you believe you can. No doubt you can remember a time in your life when you were exceptionally focused on your objective, a time when you achieved more in less time than ever before. Perhaps it was an impending vacation that motivated you to get everything done before you departed, or perhaps it was a "must pass" exam that helped you focus your concentration.
That reminds me of a personal incident - In 9th standard, I was struggling to pass out in Maths i.e. both Geometry and Algebra and I hated it. My professor, Varghese told me that I will not get through as I needed 132 to pass out in my finals (out of 150) - How the hell I would achieve that? I was a shy kid then but told my proffessor that I will pass through and I am confident - I still remember the day when he called me on the day of result personally and asked me what magic I did, as he could not believe the numbers - it was 147/ 150 - I smiled and said that 'maybe I was more attentive in class and got more focused'. Indeed, its focus, concentration and self belief that took me through this.
The intensity that you developed in those situations is always available to you when you have a Positive Mental Attitude.
Little did I know of such a thing at that point of time but today when I look back at the various pages of my life (as well), I feel PROUD.
A POSITIVE MENTAL ATTITUDE IS AN IRRESISTIBLE FORCE THAT KNOWS NO SUCH THING AS AN IMMOVABLE BODY.
Does it make sense?
Cheers,
B
Today I got into a conversation with a colleague of mine who. believes that negative thoughts are inevitable and however one tries to be positive, at times it is situations that stands far too stronger and it is beyond control.
Time and again we hear stories about ordinary people who do seemingly impossible things when they find themselves in an emergency situation. They perform herculean feats of strength and endurance, things they never dreamed, they were capable of doing.
Way back during my school days, I heard of a story where a mother (who used to work in the field) lifted a tree which fell on her infant child and she didn't even realise what she did - ofcourse, it was her love for the child but at the same time a positive mental attitude.
Wouldn't it be wonderful if you could harness that strength and make it available anytime you need it?
Hmmmmm.... Now that's something to ponder upon!
You can - only if you believe you can. No doubt you can remember a time in your life when you were exceptionally focused on your objective, a time when you achieved more in less time than ever before. Perhaps it was an impending vacation that motivated you to get everything done before you departed, or perhaps it was a "must pass" exam that helped you focus your concentration.
That reminds me of a personal incident - In 9th standard, I was struggling to pass out in Maths i.e. both Geometry and Algebra and I hated it. My professor, Varghese told me that I will not get through as I needed 132 to pass out in my finals (out of 150) - How the hell I would achieve that? I was a shy kid then but told my proffessor that I will pass through and I am confident - I still remember the day when he called me on the day of result personally and asked me what magic I did, as he could not believe the numbers - it was 147/ 150 - I smiled and said that 'maybe I was more attentive in class and got more focused'. Indeed, its focus, concentration and self belief that took me through this.
The intensity that you developed in those situations is always available to you when you have a Positive Mental Attitude.
Little did I know of such a thing at that point of time but today when I look back at the various pages of my life (as well), I feel PROUD.
A POSITIVE MENTAL ATTITUDE IS AN IRRESISTIBLE FORCE THAT KNOWS NO SUCH THING AS AN IMMOVABLE BODY.
Does it make sense?
Cheers,
B
what do you get when you think negative?
Dear Friends,
Have you guys ever imagined what do you get when you think negative?
A NEGATIVE MIND spawns only negative ideas..
It is a physical impossibility for a negative mind to generate any positive thoughts. When you allow yourself to dwell on the negative aspects of life, negative thinking expands to fill all of your thoughts until there is no room for positive thoughts to grow. It becomes an endless cycle. Please bear in mind that a human mind has only 'X' memory and as I have always mentioned, don't fill this with garbage else there will be no space to store beautiful data/ thoughts.
The habit of negative thinking generates more and more negative thoughts, which the mind attempts to turn into physical reality. The result is a life of despair and hopelessness. Develop the habit of eliminating negative thoughts the moment they appear. Start small at first. When you first hear that inner voice that says, "I can?t do this," put the thought out of your mind immediately. Instead, concentrate on the task itself. Break it down into manageable parts and complete them one at a time. When the job is finished, tell your doubting self: "You were wrong. I could do it, and I did!"
Mark it, you will only be an achiever and never a failure.
Cheers,
B
Have you guys ever imagined what do you get when you think negative?
A NEGATIVE MIND spawns only negative ideas..
It is a physical impossibility for a negative mind to generate any positive thoughts. When you allow yourself to dwell on the negative aspects of life, negative thinking expands to fill all of your thoughts until there is no room for positive thoughts to grow. It becomes an endless cycle. Please bear in mind that a human mind has only 'X' memory and as I have always mentioned, don't fill this with garbage else there will be no space to store beautiful data/ thoughts.
The habit of negative thinking generates more and more negative thoughts, which the mind attempts to turn into physical reality. The result is a life of despair and hopelessness. Develop the habit of eliminating negative thoughts the moment they appear. Start small at first. When you first hear that inner voice that says, "I can?t do this," put the thought out of your mind immediately. Instead, concentrate on the task itself. Break it down into manageable parts and complete them one at a time. When the job is finished, tell your doubting self: "You were wrong. I could do it, and I did!"
Mark it, you will only be an achiever and never a failure.
Cheers,
B
Thought of the day
Dear Friends,
IF YOU HAVE MORE ENEMIES THAN FRIENDS, IT'S TIME TO EXAMINE YOUR MENTAL ATTITUDE.
When your enemies outnumber your friends, the answer to the problem most likely resides within you.
Ask yourself the following questions,
* Am I the kind of person I would like to have as a friend?
* Do I consider the feelings of others, or do I think only of myself?
* Do I try to find the good in others, or am I always finding fault?
* When something goes wrong, do I search for a solution to the problem, or do I look for someone to blame?
In the answers to such questions, you may find the answer to the question: Why do I have more enemies than friends?
Cheers,
B
IF YOU HAVE MORE ENEMIES THAN FRIENDS, IT'S TIME TO EXAMINE YOUR MENTAL ATTITUDE.
When your enemies outnumber your friends, the answer to the problem most likely resides within you.
Ask yourself the following questions,
* Am I the kind of person I would like to have as a friend?
* Do I consider the feelings of others, or do I think only of myself?
* Do I try to find the good in others, or am I always finding fault?
* When something goes wrong, do I search for a solution to the problem, or do I look for someone to blame?
In the answers to such questions, you may find the answer to the question: Why do I have more enemies than friends?
Cheers,
B
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